…True mental toughness? It's emotional agility Wearing armor made of self trust It's the courage to feel deeply and still function consciously
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Hey there Beautiful minds I'm doctor Julia Jingles physician author hypnotherapist and founder of personal awareness medicine and this is mindset medicine. Where we go straight to the soul of what's holding you back and then break it wide open so that you can live happy healthy and wildly fulfilled. Today kicks off my April series Master your mind Master your life. And this first episode, buckle up because we're talking mental toughness, the real kind. Not to just push through motivational poster nonsense, but the behind the scenes mindset rewiring the high performers never talk about.
Why? Because it's not sexy. It's gritty It's repetitive and it's the secret sauce that separates game changers from the energy drainers…If you've ever wondered how certain people stay focused under pressure how they bounce back from failure like it's a trampoline, or emotionally seem bulletproof? This episode's for you because we're diving into what they do differently how the brain is wired for success and how you can start building that same unbreakable inner core without burning out or betraying yourself in the process. So grab your tea your journal or your treadmill whatever makes you feel alive and let's get into mental toughness secrets The ultra successful people won't tell you.
Let's go. First I want to cover a myth of toughness. Let's kick this off by breaking it up. Mental toughness is not about pretending you don't feel It's not about being cold detached or even robotic. It's not about working until you break and then calling it resilience…
Resilience is a hot topic these days. True mental toughness, it's emotional agility wearing armor made of self trust It's the courage to feel deeply and still function consciously…Let's say that again It's the courage to feel deeply and still function consciously. Let's rewind to a moment that taught me this idea, gymnastics…And guess what It was the beam, four inches of pressure and one misstep and I'd be airborne and possibly broken. And I gotta tell you it was never graceful. As a gymnast the beam was where I trained my body and unknowingly my brain.
Falling wasn't failure It was the regular. Every bruise I got built a neurologic reflex. That reflex was get up, try again, adjust focus execute. Get up again Try again adjust focus execute. That taught me mental strength isn't about perfection at all.
It's about patterned recovery…Here's a secret for you Secret number one. Highly successful people train for stress before it hits. The ultra successful aren't magically calm when life gets chaotic. They're trained for it They build capacity like a muscle. They rehearse how they're gonna respond long before the test even ever arrives.
In medical school I learned this the hard way. Patients were crashing, exams piling up and I had two options. I either broke under pressure or I trained for pressure like I trained for a competition…
I didn't wait for the stress to hit me sideways. I prepped my nervous system like it was a battlefield…I rehearsed being calm. I mentally walked through emergencies before they happened I trained my brain before the incident…What if you practice resilience before you needed it? Imagine that Let's try that now. If you're safe not operating machinery and not driving I want you to close your eyes…
Picture a moment that typically stresses you out. And now visualize yourself responding with ease and clarity and confidence. You're flowing through it. Simply you're breathing you speak you handle it You feel that version of you and your body and it is simple…
This is your mental dress rehearsal. You can repeat this until it becomes familiar and automatic but visualization is really important because visualization is just as important as experiencing it because your body your nervous system really doesn't know the difference. So hey let's practice shall we? Here's secret number two. Ultra successful people talk to themselves.
They don't listen to themselves And I think this is really really important. Here's what most people don't realize You can't build mental toughness when you have a mental bully in your head High performers don't listen to every thought They talk back to their thoughts. I grew up with a father who demanded precision and a mother who measured love by performance. The voices of not enough were deeply internalized…but I reached a moment where I chose to talk louder than my legacy…That's when the real shift happens…Let's get specific here I want you to write down your top three inner critic phrases. The ones that hit you on repeat.
Uh they might sound like I'm not doing enough. I always screw up. Who do I think I am to even try this? This is your critic voice that goes in your head If you can sit down and write these things down And I want you to stop and look at each one and ask yourself. Whose voice is that?
Is it yours or did you inherit it? Does it reflect truth…
or a past trauma? Because if that's the case I want you to think about how you're gonna flip that How do you flip the script? Instead of saying I'm not doing enough. I want you to flip it to I'm doing the best I can with what I have. That's enough for today.
Instead of saying in your head I'm always screwing things up. Maybe that can become with I'm learning and improving. Mistakes don't define me…
Instead of thinking to yourself who do I think I am? Maybe you can change that too. I'm someone worth betting on. And I bet you if you look back in your past you probably have some proof of that that you are a successful person in some way or another…
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I'd like to do a little anchored affirmation. Something that we can take this process and really kinda get it deep into your nervous system. So an anger and hypnotherapy is a physical trigger It's like touching your heart or pressing your fingers together that begins to activate a specific mental or emotional state. Over time when you are in a stressful situation, if you create this physical anger, it will bring you back to a time when you mentally and physically have created an appropriate intentional response. In other words over time you teach your body to respond instantly on the cue of your physical anger So let's try this Put your hand on your heart and say to yourself.
I speak strength…
I embody peace…
I trust my voice…
And just bring that in, pressing gently…saying it again…
I speak strength…
I embody peace…I trust my voice…
This is your reset switch. Use it Build it Trust it. Hand on the heart. I speak strength I embody peace I trust my voice. You can come up with your own affirmations You can use your fingers where you pinch your thumb and your forefinger together.
I like putting my hand on my heart when I'm by myself It just seems it seems more spiritual That's kinda what I like. Here's secret number three…
Ultra successful people make peace with discomfort…
Let's be honest Discomfort isn't fatal, but most people treat it like it is They think hunger is an emergency…K We panic at the first sign of unease, chest tightness sweaty palms that pit in your gut But the truth is almost always, at least in my world and many people's world Discomforts not danger It's just a growth signal. Discomfort is a sign or a symptom that something should be or could be addressed. And the ultra successful they're desensitized to discomfort not because they're numb…but because…they have normalized it. Years ago I had a raging case of cat scratch fever. And one of the treatments was after every shower I was to turn the water on as cold as I possibly could, raise my arm and rinse icy cold water down my arm and into the armpit.
Now let me be clear I've never liked cold water. My husband was the one that had to get into the pool with the kids because I didn't wanna get into the cold water He thought I was a baby and to be honest with you I probably was But I'll own that But the cold blast in the shower would trigger a lymphatic drainage that would help get the lymphatics to contract helping to undo the tightness and the cords of the cat scratch fever where all my lymph brilliance tightened up. So I had to learn to sit with that shock to go from warm shower to really really cold, and I was supposed to stay in it until I started to shiver which was really not comfortable. At first I screamed inside Well sometimes I screamed out loud But over time, I grew to need it It actually made me feel better And eventually I came to swim in a fifty degree water in Maine Lake for five minutes. I didn't panic.
And when I got out it was total peace It was crazy…
That's desensitization You training your nervous system to stop hitting the alarm like danger danger danger danger I ask you where in your life do you possibly react like discomfort equals death? Is it running late? Is it…hunger. Is it thirst? When the truth of the matter is you're not starving and you're not dehydrated.
Well you might be but not overly dehydrated. And maybe a little bit of aches and pains really aren't death. But your body may be saying that or your brain may be panicking So I want you to just think about setting a boundary and saying no. Take a new opportunity that ask yourself are these life threatening symptoms? Because your system might be thinking they are.
So many people are struggling with anxiety and overwhelm, and you're just not listening to their triggers and doing something differently. And if you ignore your body's symptoms…little aches and pains little discomfractures…they're just gonna get louder And when we ignore them and they get loud enough then we think that we're dying And the truth is we just need to stop ignoring some basic symptoms and desensitize them by listening to them and making changes…
So desensitize with a practice. Try staying in cold water for a few seconds longer. Emotionally spiritually metaphorically i don't care how you do it Try to come up with different ways to tolerate discomfort…and talk to it and use it as a signal that something needs to be addressed, but not panic. Let's wrap up a few things Let's go from grit to gross This is your activation zone. This is your truth moment Mental toughness isn't about trying harder.
It's about training smarter and that training begins with daily micro decisions…Here's what we learned today. High performers train before the storm. They talk to themselves with purpose, not passivity and they don't run from discomfort. They respect it honor it use it acknowledge it and make changes because of discomfort. But more than that, high performers build environments inside their minds that can hold discomfort reframe fear, and anchor back to peace on demand…This isn't reserved for elite athletes or fortune five hundred CEOs.
This is available to you right now And the best part, you don't have to do it alone. You're in the right place with the right people hearing the right message at exactly the right time. Your next level isn't waiting for you to hustle more. It's waiting for you to build capacity to carry more peace, clarity and conviction…
Today's challenge I want you to pick one moment that you've been avoiding. It might be a conversation a choice or a task. Close your eyes. Rehearse yourself walking through it in a calm strong and anchored voice…Such your physical anchor such as pressing your fingers together or touching your heart and say, I am grounded. I am growing.
I am ready. Then go do that thing. If this hits you in the heart share it with me Tag me DM me I don't care Let me know what landed. Help me reach a hundred people in a hundred days Because the world needs more people who can think clearly speak truthfully, love deeply. Let's connect I'm on Instagram Facebook LinkedIn and Link Tree.
And if no one told you today, you're tougher than you think. You're growing faster than you feel And you're right on time. Until next time be happy be healthy and be fulfilled. This is mindset medicine with doctor Julia Jingles. You are not weak.
You are just unwinding from years of survival And now, You're choosing to rise
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