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[00:00:00] Dr. Julia Bowlin: Chaos is seductive. It makes you feel important. It makes you feel needed. It gives you a reason to stay busy, and a really good excuse to avoid stillness, silence, and those uncomfortable internal check-ins. But at what cost?
[00:00:23] Hey there, beautiful humans and welcome back to the Mindset Medicine Show. I'm Dr. Julia, physician, author Hypnotherapist, and the founder of Personal Awareness Medicine. And if you have ever told yourself, I just function better under pressure. Or I don't know how to relax without feeling guilty, then buckle up because this episode is calling you out lovingly, but directly, because today we're talking about a form of addiction that rarely gets diagnosed, but nearly every high achiever I've ever worked with, struggles with it.
[00:00:51] It's addiction to chaos. Now I know what you might be thinking. Addicted to chaos. Me? Nah. I'm just busy. I've [00:01:00] got a lot on my plate. But let me ask you this, what happens when things finally slow down? Do you take a deep breath and rest? Or do you go looking for something else to fix, to do, to solve, or to overthink?
[00:01:14] Do you feel bored when it's peaceful? Do you feel guilty when you're not being productive? Does stillness feel like a threat instead of a gift? If you're nodding your head right now, don't worry. You're not alone, you're not broken, but you might be wired for chaos. You see, many of us were raised in homes or systems where stress was normal, where calm meant that the other shoe was just about ready to drop.
[00:01:38] Where doing meant you were valuable and resting meant you were lazy. So without realizing it, we built our entire lives and identities around urgency, adrenaline, and proving that our worth is by running ourselves into the ground. But here's the truth, that changed everything for me and well for many of my clients.
[00:01:59] You [00:02:00] can't build a peaceful life with a nervous system addicted to chaos. And until you retrain that inner rhythm, until you unhook your identity from doing it all, until you stop performing productivity just to feel safe, you will keep spinning, burning out, starting over, wondering why you feel so off even when everything looks okay.
[00:02:22] So today we're going deeper. This isn't about time management. This isn't about fixing your to-do list. This is about uninstalling the addiction to stress itself and reclaiming the power to lead from stillness instead of survival. In this episode, I'm breaking down how chaos becomes your comfort zone, the four emotional archetypes of chaos, addiction.
[00:02:44] Spoiler, you do have a tide and how to start shifting your identity so that peace actually feels safe. And two powerful hypnotherapy techniques to start retraining your nervous system without needing a spa day or a sabbatical in Bali. So grab your tea, your journal, [00:03:00] or just hit play while you're walking the dog.
[00:03:02] Or hiding from your inbox. Let's do this because peace isn't passive. It's powerful, and you, my friend, were never meant to live in a constant state of chaos. Let's get into this. Let's talk about when chaos becomes your comfort zone. Let's tell the truth, shall we? Chaos is seductive. It makes you feel important.
[00:03:23] It makes you feel needed. It gives you a reason to stay busy, and a really good excuse to avoid stillness, silence, and those uncomfortable internal check-ins like. Am I actually okay? Is this life working for me? Why do I feel like I'm constantly one email, one task from a breakdown? Yeah. I. Chaos keeps questions like that at bay, but at what cost?
[00:03:51] Let's unpack this. Chaos is learned. It's not innate and contrary to what your inner critic might say [00:04:00] to you. You were born with an overscheduled Google calendar, and a compulsion to answer emails at stoplights. This was learned. If you grew up in a household where things were unpredictable, if emotions were high and safety was low, your nervous system just adapted.
[00:04:17] You learned that staying hyper alert, staying busy, or taking care of everyone else made things feel safer. And once that wiring's in place, chaos becomes your default. Calm isn't calming. It's confusing. Stillness feels wrong, and rest feels irresponsible and quiet. That's just what happens before the next crisis hits.
[00:04:40] This isn't about your personality, it is about your programming. This is why chaos feels like home, even if you hate it. Your subconscious mind is always trying to keep you familiar, not necessarily happy. So if you've lived most of your life in some version of hustle, crisis, recover, repeat, [00:05:00] hustle, crisis, recover, repeat, then calm might feel like a foreign territory.
[00:05:05] Imagine this, you finally get a weekend off. Nothing urgent, no text. The kids are quiet. Do you a relax and enjoy the piece or. B. Suddenly, remember, 17 projects that need to be done, like deep cleaning, the grout, alphabetizing your spices, or finally decide that this is the perfect time to reorganize your digital folders from 2011.
[00:05:27] Yeah. B, that's chaos. Addiction in action. We confuse chaos with control. We think staying in motion means we're staying ahead, but all we are doing is reinforcing the belief that I'm only safe when I'm in stress. The control, comfort illusion. This is where it gets trickier. Sometimes we stay in chaos because it gives us a false sense of control.
[00:05:52] One of my clients, I'm gonna call her Sarah, was a high powered nurse manager. She was running three units, managing 45 staff members, [00:06:00] taking night calls and still volunteering for every holiday shift. From the outside, she looked unstoppable, but internally she was unraveling. And when I asked her what she thought would happen if she said no to any of it, she looked me dead in the eyes and said, if I stop, everything will fall apart.
[00:06:22] Hmm. I. That right there. That's the lie that chaos tells you. That's your over-functioning thought. That over-functioning is noble, that your exhaustion is proof of your importance, and that if you are not juggling 14 flaming swords blindfolded. Then you're failing. But here's the truth. If the system only works when you are over-functioning, it is not a system.
[00:06:46] It's a trap. So let's do some real talk here. You are not a chaos whisperer. Some of you bless your brilliant souls, have become the go-to crisis manager for everyone in your life, your [00:07:00] coworkers. Can you take a quick look at this? Your partner, Hey, can you handle this one thing I forgot. Family, we didn't plan ahead, so can you help?
[00:07:10] Even your friends are used to you being the one who swoops in, organizes the mess and saves the day. But here's the thing, just because you're good at chaos doesn't mean you should keep living in it. And let's be honest, if everyone else treated you the way that you treat yourself with the nonstop pressure, the no breaks, the no thank yous, and the 24 7 expectations.
[00:07:33] You would've filed an HR complaint a long time ago. Yep. Here you are being your own worst boss. Wearing burnout, like a badge of honor, confusing busyness with purpose. It's time to call it what it is. A dysfunctional coping pattern. That's outstate. Its welcome. How about we do a little mini coaching reflection here.
[00:07:54] Let's pause, breathe, and ask a bold question, [00:08:00] who am I when I'm not solving problems? If your brain just went fuzzy, uncomfortable, or blank, that's not failure. That's a sign that you've been over identifying with chaos as your identity. But here's the good news, you can redefine peace as your new comfort zone.
[00:08:16] You can build a life that doesn't need constant emergencies to feel meaningful, and you can unhook your worst from how much you're juggling because your nervous system might be wired for chaos right now, but it can be rewired. We're gonna start doing that right here. Right now, I want to talk about the four flavors of chaos, addiction.
[00:08:39] Which one's running your life here? Think about this because not all chaos looks like screaming toddlers, miss deadlines, or a full blown panic. Some chaos wears pearls. Some chaos shows up with color coded planners. Some chaos looks like productivity, generosity, and leadership. That is what makes it so dangerous.
[00:08:59] [00:09:00] And it's not about the, I'm falling apart kind of chaos. It's often about this. I've got this kind until you don't. So let's name it. Here are the four emotional archetypes of chaos, addiction that I see most in high functioning professionals. You might see yourself in just one, or let's be honest, in all four.
[00:09:20] Number one, the crisis queen or king. The signature move is creating urgency out of thin air. The fuel is drama, deadlines in the last minute, panic, and here's how it shows up. You wait until the last possible moment to do things, even things you want to do, not because you're lazy, but because the adrenaline rush is your creative juice.
[00:09:43] And you say things like, I just work better under pressure. Truthfully, you have trained your brain to need crisis. To feel motivated. I had a physician client, and I'm gonna call him Ben, who would literally clear his entire evening and then instead of resting, he invented a new task to solve, [00:10:00] fix a tech issue, rebuild his workflow, respond to non-urgent emails at midnight.
[00:10:06] And when I asked him why he couldn't just chill, he said. If it's too quiet, I feel like I'm falling behind even if I'm not. That's the crisis king energy. You create chaos to avoid emptiness. We have body memory and the body memory of this archetype is the heart racing, the tension in the shoulders. You feel alive, but slightly nauseous.
[00:10:30] You confuse urgency with importance. Now the number two. This is the martyr manager. The signature move of a martyr manager is over-functioning for everyone else and ignoring your own needs. The fuel guilt, obligation, and chronic helping, and this is how it shows up. You volunteer for the thing that nobody else wants.
[00:10:52] You step into rescue people from their poor planning and you tell yourself, if I don't, who will? [00:11:00] Meanwhile, your own health, your own boundaries, and your own peace are in shambles. And here's a real story, maybe it's even yours. A woman I work with, let's call her Erica, was a healthcare administration. She was a single mom, a part-time caretaker for her parents.
[00:11:14] She said yes to every committee, every PTA request and every 6:00 AM shift that nobody else would take. And when we dug deeper, she admitted, I feel guilty if I'm not helping. It's like I don't deserve to rest until everyone else is okay. Folks, that's not service. That's self-sacrifice wearing lipstick.
[00:11:33] And the body memory is that exhaustion masks as competence. It's an ache in the chest that flares up when someone says, can you just, the chronic tension of always being the one who holds it all together. Yep. That's the martyr manager. Now let's talk about number three, the control freak fixer. The signature move is micromanaging everything to avoid feeling vulnerable, and the [00:12:00] fuel is perfectionism and fear of failure.
[00:12:03] This is how it shows up. You believe if you plan every detail, you can prevent disappointment, pain, and loss. You don't delegate it because, well, nobody else does it, right? You might even redo other people's work behind their backs, but here's what you don't tell everyone all that control. Just a shield for your own fear of chaos.
[00:12:25] Here's another client snapshot of mine. I coached a COO. We're gonna call her Dana, who triple checked her staff's work, responded to all custom emails personally, and really took a full lunch break. And she finally admitted to me, if I let go, I'm afraid everything will fall apart, and then I'm going to be exposed as a failure.
[00:12:46] And that's what I've been avoiding. Her real fear wasn't failure, though it was powerlessness and in her body. She was a clenched jaw, teeth grinding at night, hands and fists when nobody was watching [00:13:00] that subtle, constant helm of, I have to hold it all together or else. That's the control freak, fixer. And lastly, number four, the avoidant achiever.
[00:13:12] The signature move of this one is staying busy to avoid feeling anything. The fuel. Achievement, accomplishment and applause. Here's how it shows up. You feel every second of your day with Purposeful Action podcasts while walking emails during lunch, planning your next vacation. While you're on your present vacation.
[00:13:35] You are productive but rarely present. You're praised for your hustle, but deep down you don't know how to sit still because stillness equals discomfort. My story, truthfully, this was me sometimes still is in my early medical career, even my self-care had a spreadsheet. I didn't know how to relax without feeling like I was wasting time.
[00:13:56] I was running from something and I didn't even know what [00:14:00] chaos gave me. Cover. She's so busy, everybody would say, yeah, but disassociating, busy avoiding grief, busy earning worth through action. The body memory of this avoidant achiever is that constant mental buzz, the stomach unrest, feeling disconnected from your own needs, but wired into everyone else's expectations.
[00:14:24] So which one are you, now that you've met the four flavors of chaos, addiction, I want you to reflect which one do you relate to the most? Which one do you default to when you're tired, triggered, or overwhelmed? Which one have you normalized so much you didn't even realize it was chaos? Is it the crisis king or queen?
[00:14:47] Is it the martyr manager? Is it the control freak fixer or the avoidant achiever? Ask yourself, what am I afraid I'd feel or have to face if I gave up this flavor of chaos? [00:15:00] Let that question land because behind every chaotic pattern is a pain you haven't been ready to face, and behind that pain is your power.
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[00:16:17] Dr. Julia Bowlin: Next section number three, I want you to think about burning the rule book a k, a, stop following rules that are running or ruining your life. Let's get one thing straight. Most of the rules you live by, you never chose them, they were handed to you or more likely injected into your psyche when you're too young to say.
[00:16:37] Um, actually no thanks. I'd rather not destroy my nervous system in the name of being helpful. Let's talk about these unspoken rules. The mental contracts we've internalized that keeps us addicted to chaos. The most common chaos feeding rules are I can rest when everything's done. You mean that never ending to-do list that you keep adding to like a [00:17:00] sadistic game of whack-a-mole?
[00:17:01] Yeah. Let's call that for what it is, a moving, finishing line. A trap that ensures that rest always feels earned and never allowed. Here's the reality check. Everything will never get done. So if rest is a reward, you are never getting it. Here's another one. If I'm not needed, I'm not valuable. Hmm. Ah, here's the thing.
[00:17:23] That's the ultimate burnout mantra. You have built an identity around being the one who shows up, the one who could be counted on the fixer, the planner, and the glue. But here's the dangerous part. You've attached your worth to your utility, which means every time you slow down, you wonder if you matter at all.
[00:17:41] And folks, that's not service. That is slavery disguised as sainthood. Here's another one. If it's not stressful, it's not meaningful. Let's take a deep breath together for that one, because this belief is everywhere in high achieving culture. If it feels easy, you worry you're doing it wrong. [00:18:00] If you're not exhausted, your question, if you're trying hard enough.
[00:18:04] But let me ask you something. When did suffering become your metric for significance? What if joy could be just as sacred? What if ease was a sign that you're aligned? Not lazy. Hard does not equal. Wholly sacrifice doesn't always equal success. And pushing yourself to the edge every day isn't a virtue.
[00:18:24] It's a nervous breakdown in slow motion. Here's a coaching interrupt. I want you to pause and breathe and ask yourself, who gave me these rules? Do I actually wanna keep following them? Because here's the deal. Most of us are operating with a rule book written by people who were themselves overwhelmed, undersupported and trapped in survival mode.
[00:18:45] Think about it. A mom who never rested, telling you to stay busy. A father who equated productivity with love, a culture that praises burnout with hashtags such as hashtag no days off. Hashtag team, no sleep. [00:19:00] These weren't truths. These were coping mechanisms, and you inherited them like family heirlooms, right alongside your mother's guilt and your grandmother's unresolved trauma.
[00:19:10] But guess what? You are allowed to rewrite the rules, and if no one gives you permission yet, I just did. So here's some real talk from a hypnotherapist in a white coat. You know what I hear in my sessions over and over? I don't know how to stop. If I'm not constantly doing, I feel like I'll lose control.
[00:19:30] I'll feel guilty when I rest, like I'm wasting time. These aren't time management issues. These are internalized oppression, chaos, addiction doesn't just burn out your body. It warps your identity. You stop seeing yourself as someone who is and start seeing yourself as someone who does. But here's the truth.
[00:19:49] You're not hearing this enough. You are not your schedule. You are not your output. You are not a machine. You are a whole radiant human being [00:20:00] and rest, calm and peace. These are not luxuries, they're medicine. I beg you rewrite your rule book right now. Let's flip this script. Try these on instead. Rest is a strategy, not a reward.
[00:20:16] I can be loved, seen and valued when I'm not performing. Calm is not the absence of success. It's the foundation for it. Go ahead. Write your own rules. Tattoo them to your brain if you have to, because the old rules got you here, burnt out, stressed out, and wondering why your peace feels like quicksand, then it's time to retire that handbook, burn it, bury it, bless it.
[00:20:41] Then start over again with rules that are rooted in truth, not trauma. So ask yourself, what rule have I been living by previously that no longer serves the woman, man, or human being that I am? One more time. What rule have I been living by that no longer [00:21:00] serves this woman, man or human being that I'm becoming?
[00:21:03] Let's try a little hypnotherapy technique. Now. Let's do an identity upgrade reframe. This is called I am Not My Chaos. I. Alright, let's take a nice deep breath because everything we've explored up to this point, the chaos cravings, the identity traps, the martyrdom, the Internalized Rule Book of overdoing comes down to one fundamental truth.
[00:21:25] Your chaos addiction isn't just behavioral, it's identity based. You don't just act chaotic. You believe on some subconscious level that chaos is who you are. You're the strong one, the capable one, the one who makes it work, the one who holds it all together by silently falling apart inside. And the longer you live from that identity, the more your nervous system will get hooked on the adrenaline and the urgency of being the rescuer, the doer, and the fire putter outer.
[00:21:56] But here's the problem, even when life gives you permission to slow [00:22:00] down, your identity won't let you. Until you rewrite it. So how about we upgrade that identity? This hypnotherapy technique is called the identity upgrade reframe, and it works by helping your subconscious uncouple your worth from your workload.
[00:22:16] Why does this work? Because the subconscious mind holds onto roles that feel familiar even when they're harmful. But the moment that you consciously choose a new identity and pair it with sensory rich visualization, which we will do, the brain begins to remap its comfort zones. This is the technique I call.
[00:22:34] I'm not my chaos, and it's a visualization practice. So here we go. If you're safe, not operating machinery, driving a car and you feel comfortable, go ahead and close your eyes. Find a quiet space. Well, how about we find a quiet space? Then close your eyes, find a quiet space, sit comfortably and then close your eyes.
[00:22:54] I want you to breathe in deeply through your nose and out through your mouth,[00:23:00]
[00:23:03] and let's begin. We're gonna work on externalizing this chaos identity. I want you to visualize yourself in your most chaotic state. Maybe you're juggling 10 things, managing emotions, racing against the clock. Notice how your body feels. What are you wearing the energy around? You give this version of you a name, a label, a title.
[00:23:24] Maybe it's Crisis Kathy or Overdrive Oscar. What is this name of your crazy, chaotic person running around and racing around? Now take a deep breath and imagine stepping out of that role like you would step out of a heavy coat, step out, let it drop to the ground, let your shoulders relax. You are not abandoning responsibility.
[00:23:47] You're releasing an identity addiction. I. So you're stepping outta that chaos. Now we're gonna step into a new you. Visualize yourself calm, centered, and [00:24:00] aligned. This is a version of you that's relaxed, smiling, soft faced, energized, not overextended. Notice how your body feels here. Looser shoulders, slower breathing.
[00:24:15] Eyes that hold presence instead of panic. This version of you is grounded. This version of you says, no without guilt. This version of you thrives in stillness. Now, repeat mentally or allowed, I am not my chaos. I am safe and calm. Stillness is my strength. I lead with peace, not panic. Let those words wash over you like a warm breeze.
[00:24:49] Let your subconscious take them in like truth because it is now gently press your thumb and forefinger together, creating a physical anchor for this [00:25:00] state. This is telling your brain, remember this feeling. Come back here anytime. Repeat mentally again or aloud. I am not my chaos. I am safe and calm.
[00:25:16] Stillness is my strength. I lead with peace, not panic. And your thumb and forefinger are bringing this anchor together with this state.
[00:25:30] Take one more deep breath in, and when you're ready, open your eyes. Now here's what I want you to do in real life. Catch yourself the next time you say, I have to, or I'm the only one who can, or I don't have time, because I want you to pause and I want you to press your anchor fingers together and ask yourself, am I acting for my chaos identity or my calm identity?
[00:25:58] And this is how we shift the [00:26:00] pattern, not by force, but by returning over and over again to the version of you who knows they are valuable without over-functioning. The one who's calm. Understands that peace is healing because this is your new identity. Your last identity wasn't set in stone. It is programmable, and you, my friend, are the one who holds the key card.
[00:26:22] Let's do a quick, simple hypnotherapy technique. This is a three minute reset for your nervous system from chaos to calm without even leaving your desk. Look, I love a good deep dive hypnotherapy session as much as anyone, but sometimes you don't have 45 minutes and a lavender pillow. You've got three minutes.
[00:26:41] You're in your car. It's in the bathroom at work, between patient charts, client calls, or afterschool pickup. This is where the technique shines. This is your portable, calm down tool. You don't need crystals, candles, or a perfect playlist either. I call this the present anchor reset, and here's how you retrain your nervous system to [00:27:00] associate presence with safety instead of stress.
[00:27:03] Because right now many of you, your brain is thinking, if I'm still, I'm unsafe. If I stop moving, I'm falling behind. If I'm not thinking ahead, I'm vulnerable. This technique helps rewire that in real time. Find a moment of pause, sitting, standing, driving, or hiding in the break room. I've been there too. No one has to know that you are doing this.
[00:27:26] I want you to come back to your senses. This grounds you in the now, not in past regrets or future panic now, and I want you to say out loud or in your mind one thing that I can smell, two things I can touch, three things I can see, you can whisper it or think it. One thing I can smell. I smell coffee. I feel my jeans.
[00:27:51] I touch the pen in my hand. I see a blue folder, the tree outside, and my reflection in the window. I. Your brain can't be [00:28:00] in stress spiral when it's fully anchored in the present moment. It's a neurologic truth. Your senses are your safety zone. So let's go back to it. Find one thing you can smell, the perfume, the coffee, the leather in your car.
[00:28:13] Two things you can touch your coat, the dashboard, a pencil. Three things you can see your drink, your water, your phone. Bringing your senses back into a safe zone. Next, do a three part breath stack. This resets the vagus nerve and signals I'm not in danger. Breathe in for four count. Hold it for four, breathe out for six and repeat this three times.
[00:28:43] Breathe in. 2, 3, 4, hold, 2, 3, 4, and out, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8 While breathing in [00:29:00] with your nose and out through your mouth. With every exhale, let your shoulders drop beneath your ears. This is like physically letting go of performance pressure and pretending. And here's a bonus tip. Say this silently as you exhale, I am safe in stillness, or there's nothing to prove in this moment, or My value is not based on my pace.
[00:29:26] Or just focus on the breath, because that's the main goal right there. Next, let's activate and gesture again. I've done this over and over again. I like the thumb and the finger together, the thumb and the index, but just choose a physical gesture. It could also be a hand on your heart, a deep H exhale with your eyes closed, and do this when you're in a calm state.
[00:29:48] Why? Because you're creating neuro association the next time you feel stress rising. This gesture will act like a neurologic bookmark to help you return to your peace. [00:30:00] It's like telling your body, you've been here and we can be calm here. Again, this works because you're interrupting a stress cycle before it becomes a full-blown cortisol cocktail.
[00:30:10] You are retraining your autonomic nervous system to interpret. Peace and presence, not panic, and you're starting to teach your brain that you don't need chaos to feel alive. Because let's face it, you've probably gotten used to the buzz of being busy and the high of hyper vigilance, but that's not your natural state.
[00:30:31] That's your trauma state, and this three minute practice is your exit route. Make it a ritual. Here's your challenge. Do the reset three times a day for the next seven days, you can do this. It's three minutes to reset your nervous system three times a day for the next seven days, morning, midday, evening.
[00:30:51] Set an alarm on your phone if you need to. You're not just calming yourself in the moment. You are building a new pattern, a new baseline, and a new nervous [00:31:00] system home. And the more you anchor calm in your body, the less chaos will control your life. So here's your new mantra. Peace is my power. I. It's not a luxury.
[00:31:11] It's not a reward, it's a right. Let's land this episode after everything I've unpacked after we've named the chaos, peeled back their survival strategies and identified your flavor of addiction and practiced your reset rituals. I want you to hear this loud and clear. Peace isn't passive, peace is power.
[00:31:31] And if that feels weird to say. Good because it means that you are about to rewrite everything you thought you knew about success, identity, and worth. And here's the real talk. You would've fired your boss already if you keep going like this. So let me ask you something. If your boss treated you with no breaks, no compassion and possible expectations, guilt trips, every time you tried to rest, you'd file a report.
[00:31:56] You'd call HR and you'd quit. So why are you still [00:32:00] working for that version of you, that chaos addicted inner manager who thinks exhaustion is a virtue and rest is a weakness, fire her or him lovingly. Permanently. And in that place, let's hire the real you. The one who leads from presence, not panic, the one who speaks clearly, breathes deeply and doesn't need crisis to feel needed.
[00:32:22] The one who knows that calm doesn't mean complacency. It means mastery. I. Trade your hustle high for soul strength. You don't need to earn peace by suffering first. You don't need to apologize By choosing rest over people pleasing, and you don't need chaos to validate your significance. You just need to decide.
[00:32:42] I'm no longer living by my own rules, trauma patterns, or nervous system. By default, I'm choosing peace because peace is my new power. You with me? Let this mantra anchor your next week. Peace is my power. I'm safe in stillness and I [00:33:00] don't need chaos to feel alive. So when you wake up, say it. When you're tempted to fix over-function or volunteer for one more thing, that eventually you will secretly resent, say it When your nervous system starts begging for a crisis just to feel normal.
[00:33:14] And if you need anchoring, check out this week's new worksheet every week for mindset medicine. There's a new downloadable to help you move past some of your issues. So here's the final word. You're not here to be the glue that holds everything together. You're here to be the soul that shines when you're held to.
[00:33:31] You're here to lead from peace, and the world needs that version of you now more than ever. So choose it, practice it, and repeat after me. Be happy, be healthy, and be fulfilled. Until next time, I'm Dr. Julia Bolen and your nervous system just made a new best friend.
[00:33:54] Thank you for listening to Mindset Medicine with your host, Dr. Julia Bowlin. To learn more about mindset [00:34:00] medicine, go to www.juliabowlinmd.com and connect with Dr. Julia to find out how our team can help you today. Join us again next week for more expert tips, tools, and strategies to become healthier, wealthier, and wiser in your personal and professional life.
