…Welcome back to mindset medicine I'm doctor Julia Jingles physician author hypnotherapist and founder of personal awareness medicine And this episode is all about one thing, rebellion. This episode rebel to rise while breaking the rules unlocks your true potential. Now before you start picturing me in a leather jacket which I have by the way, and leading a protest let's be clear This is about breaking the rules that are keeping you stuck. If you've ever felt overworked overwhelmed or trapped by expectations, or like you're following a script that was written by someone else, Maybe you felt that you've played it safe for way too long. It's time to shake things up Then this episode is for you because I'm diving into the three toxic rules that you must break to finally get unstuck. And how playing it safe is secretly sabotaging your success and how a powerful hypnotherapy technique can actually help you integrate your bold, fearless self with your logical cautious side.
I'm gonna give you real life examples of women who ditched the script and created lives of purpose, freedom, and fulfillment because it can happen. So buckle up because today, we're burning the old rule book and writing a brand new one Let's get going. Why playing it safe is keeping you stuck? We are taught from a young age that following the rules means success. Be polite, work hard, don't rock the boat But here's the problem.
Most of these rules weren't made to help youth thrive. They were designed to keep you manageable predictable, and easy to control. So let's break that down. If you work hard…
you're just gonna get more things dumped on you without a raise. If you are always nice, people might walk all over you. And if you don't take risks you might never grow never change never chase what you really want. Meanwhile, successful and impactful people who have been fulfilled in their lives throughout history broke the darn rules. Oprah, for example, she was fired from TV from being too emotional.
Elon Musk he was laughed out at meetings for wanting electric cars. Rosa Parks changed history by refusing to follow the rule design to keep her small…
What do all these people have in common? They stopped waiting for permission and started trusting themselves. And that's what we're going to do today. Here's three rules you must break to unlock your potential
And if you've been playing by these outdated toxic rules
it's time to break free. Rule number one, stay in your lane or by playing smalls overrated. Have you ever heard this…Somebody says to you that's not realistic. You should be grateful for what you have. That's not how things are done.
here's the thing The people who tell you to stay in your lane are usually the ones too afraid to leave theirs. I'm gonna share with you a short story. I call this the coffee shop CEO. Sarah was a burned out health care worker and she had a dream. She wanted to open a wellness cafe but people kept telling her why would you throw away your medical career to make lattes?
That's crazy. She wanted to change the way people experienced food and health. So guess what She ignored all the noise followed her passion and now runs a thriving business that fulfills her in a way that her old job never could. I did that I still to this day don't laugh at me My ultimate dream I was a, uh a waitress for years. My long term dream is to have a business called cocktails and coaching.
And in a perfect world it'd be a tiki hut on the beach somewhere. But here's the thing. Breaking the rules…means stop waiting for permission. It means ignoring the naysayers because their fear is not your future. And it means asking yourself, what if I could?
Instead of I can't or that won't work out. You are allowed to take up space, dream big, and create a life that excites you. So I'd like for you to start with maybe saying that to yourself on the regular. This is a good affirmation for anybody who is just really trying to to break free from the molds They've been stuck in. This affirmation is I'm allowed to take up space.
Dream big and create the life that excites me. I think that's important to do. I think it's important to live and to curate in the morning as one of your everyday habits. Here's rule number two.. Failure's bad.
Nope. It's just a plot twist. Most of us are trained to fear failure like it's some sort of career ending reputation ruining catastrophe. You know I can tell you this One of the most important moments I ever had on social media And yes back then I was a little more on social media Not as much now. But when I read an article about a woman whose father…
pushed her to failure, and they celebrated every single failure she had. And what that did, she lost her fear of trying new things, doing scary things because she knew failure was a success The failure was a celebration. She was able to embrace failure as a positive thing on the regular. That was not my life or upbringing by any means. That really changed the way I moved through life.
Failure is not the opposite of success It's the prerequisite…
And that was really huge for me. Failure is not the opposite of success. It's the prerequisite. It's what happens before success. It's like what?
Let's talk about the billionaire who bombed. Walt Disney was fired for lacking imagination. Imagine that Walt Disney was fired from lacking imagination. Oprah was told again she was too emotional for TV. So what if They had believed those failures What if Disney World or Super Soul Sundays didn't exist?
So how do you break these rules? First you just have to remember that failure is just feedback It's a data point It's just getting you from one place to another And that every no that you get gets you closer to the one Yes. And if you can learn to celebrate your mistakes if you're messing up, that means you are trying to do something. And if you fail faster…Guess what? You're not failing You're learning faster.
That's a big mindset shift. So I'd like for you to try this affirmation. Maybe if you remember that every failure brings you closer to success you learn, you grow, you rise. So for me I say every failure brings me closer to success. I learn, I grow, I rise.
Affirmation folks, you know we have so many things going on inside of our heads We for get that we need to sometimes undo the subconscious mind that has that heavy critic in there So let's flip your critic into positive affirmations. Here's rule number three. Put other people first. Really? At your own expense.
Here's the thing Yes helping others. Uh
once heard that uh if you ever wanna be happy help other people. It's true I mean I'm a effervescent helper of other people. But not at my own expense. You don't have to sacrifice yourself in the name of service to other people. Women especially in health care, who are service based careers or other people in service based careers, are taught that self sacrifice is a virtue.
It's not. I'm telling you it's not I see it over and over again I saw it in a meeting yesterday. It's a slow death…
Lisa, she was a physician She was drowning in exhaustion…because she couldn't say no She was afraid of disappointing people But here's the truth. If you don't set boundaries, other people are gonna take you as much as you allow. I'm gonna tell you my sister I love her She is a people Pleasure. People help her People give her And she had children when she was in residency she's a physician. And she was known as the person who would help anybody out.
And one point I'd looked at her and realized she was taking other people's overnight calls…more than she should. But once she figured out how to say no to people, they adjusted, They shifted. They realized okay Maybe maybe we were you know, asking her to do too many things But let's get back to Lisa She was drowning in exhaustion. But once she started saying no people had more respect for her not less. She felt lighter, happier and healthier.
So how do you break this rule? Ask yourself if it's not a hell yes, then it should be a no. You can flip the script instead of saying I don't have time you say I'm prioritizing something else. Remember boundaries equal freedom and I like this acronym fog f o g I wish I could tell you where I heard this but I'm just Google it Get online. FOG when it comes to boundaries if you're doing something out of fear…
obligation or guilt, then you kinda need to think again about what you're actually doing or thinking. Fear obligation guilt, fog These are boundaries. And once you can separate what you want to do versus what you feel like you have to do out of fear out of obligation or guilt it's funny how it becomes a hell no suddenly. So here's another possible affirmation. Your energy is valuable and I give to others from a full cup, not from exhaustion.
So reverse that to yourself I, my energy is valuable I give from others from a full cup not from my exhaustion.
Are you ready for a hypnotherapy technique? How do we go about merging the rebel? And the rule follower
because you can have both You can be a rule follower society standards without feeling stuck and you can merge the rebel in you as well. So have you ever felt like you were caught between two warring versions of yourself? On one hand you wanna break free and go after everything you want But on the other hand you feel stuck, scared, and you're conditioned to quote follow those rules. This is an internal conflict that I call the rebel versus the rule follower.
And it's a battle that we often all times have And if you're not careful…
It can leave you stuck in paralysis by analysis. Have you heard that before You're overanalyzing and you just get stuck and procrastinate or worse yet you don't even do it You get stuck in paralysis by analysis because you're thinking about breaking free, but you never actually take the leap You don't rebel against your own internal rule about following your rules. It's it's a crazy loop. So this is where visual squash technique comes in This is a technique that I absolutely love So here we go. It's gonna help you integrate the conflicting parts of yourself So instead of being at war, they're gonna work together to create an empowered confident version of yourself.
So here we go. If you are in a safe place not operating machinery and you feel comfortable and the safe I want you just to close your eyes. Take a deep breath and let your body relax settling into a calm receptive state. And just holding out both of your hands palms facing up. Imagine that in one hand, you're holding a part of you that wants to rebel, break the rules Take charge of your life.
What does that look like? Maybe it's a bold and daring and unstoppable part of who you are. What does it say Does it say I'm ready to do something for me I'm ready to rise I'm ready to accept that failure is a step for success. And then in your other hand, picture the perfect rule following part of you This is the side of you that's been conditioned to play it safe. Keep you safe.
Follow expectations and avoid risk. What does this version look like? Maybe it's hesitant, anxious, holding on to checklists all the shoulds needs to and a half to's. What does that part of you say? Is it saying but what if I fail…
Just sit back and observe both parts without judgment. Recognizing that both versions of you have incredible value…The rebel wants growth excitement and freedom, newness. The rule follower wants security, safety and predictability. They're not enemies. They just haven't been working together…
So slowly bring your hands together, picturing the two parts merging and blending into one another, fusing one into the other, balanced in a powerful version of you. Bring your hands together, bring them palm to palm. What do you see Maybe you see a new color forming, a golden light, an image of yourself standing taller, more confident…merged…Feel a sense of integration. Let your inner rebel know it's not just reckless. It's intentional.
And you're cautious side doesn't have to be paralyzing anymore. The conversation between those two your rebel and your protector can work it out. What does it look like What's the compromise between the rebel and the protector…
Press your hands to your heart…
Breathe in deeply and let this new version of yourself settle into your being. You can open your eyes now but let this energy stick with you Do this as often as you want Whenever you have two parts of yourself those conflict conversations which we all get in our head This is a lovely way to do it In one hand is one part of you and another is the other part, let them come together and have a conversation in your calm…subconscious self…
Because now you can break the rules that are no longer serving you and stay grounded in wisdom and strength. This can help your self sabotage, and your inner conflict ease out of your head It can give you permission to take risks without reckless fear.
you don't have to be reckless but you can take risks. Without being reckless. It also helps you make decisions from a place of confidence and not hesitation…
So in conclusion, let's get a little bit real In this episode rebel to rise while breaking the rules unlocks your true potential, I just want you to get real I want you to think about what's your next move? I covered it a lot today, and you've learned that playing it safe isn't actually keeping you safe It's keeping you small. You've realized that maybe some of your most damaging rules that you're following aren't laws but they're deeply ingrained belief that no longer serve you completely. Maybe partially, maybe not all the time though
And most importantly, you now know that true growth happens when you dare to break free. So let's recap what you're walking away with today. Rule number one Stay in your lane. Nope. Take up more space Expand.
Try something new.
Rule number two Failure is bad. Wrong. Failure is just data It's a data point. It's the tuition that you've been paying for your success. Keep it going.
Rule number three Put others first at your own expense. Never again. You can't give from an empty cup prioritizing yourself isn't selfish It is necessary. You also experience a powerful hypnotherapy technique called Visual squash. This helps you integrate your fearless ambitious self with your practical cautious self.
Now you can move forward with confidence and clarity when you have that conversation between the two parts of yourself. But here's a call to action It's time for you to rise. What's the first rule you're gonna break? I don't want you to just nod along and say great episode I listen to that Oh yay I want you to take action real action right now Before you go into your routine decide on one small act of rebellion that you're going to do. Are you gonna say no to something that drains you?
Set a boundary where one is desperately needed? Or are you gonna take a risk that feels a little exciting even if it scares you Because remember, excitement…
feels scary. And it's not necessarily anxiety It could just be excitement. Right So when our internal body is giving you those little nudges that I don't think so Don't wanna do that Heart rate goes up get a little bit of sweaty. That's not fear. That's most likely excitement.
So let's label it appropriately. And I wanna hear more about what you're going through Your thoughts on this episode. So you can either DM me on Instagram message me in LinkedIn or in Facebook or comment on the latest post.
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Come on and hang out with me Either on Instagram Facebook or LinkedIn. Until next episode, be happy, be healthy and be fulfilled. You were never meant to play small, so go rise…
