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[00:00:00] But in reality, the output hasn't dropped. The cost of producing it has increased.
Hi there. This is Dr. Julia Bowlin and you're listening to Mindset Medicine. I'd like you to take one deep breath and let this episode meet you where you are. High performers are some of the most capable people I know. When something difficult happens, something disruptive, unexpected, or just different than what they planned, there usually isn't a collapse.
There's a shift into action. More focus, more structure, more effort, and for a period of time, that works. Things will get handled. Responsibilities will stay intact. And from the outside, everything looks solid. But there's a point and it's often subtle where the same strategy stops producing the same results.
Doesn't happen all at once. It's not even this big dramatic event. [00:01:00] Just enough that something starts to feel a little heavier. Decisions might take more energy than they used to, focus isn't as clean, and the same level of effort doesn't create the same level of outcome. And the default response, especially for high functioning driven people, it's simple.
Do more. Tighten it up. Get back on track. Because that response makes sense. That's their modus operandum. It's also where things start to go sideways because there are situations in life where the issue isn't how much effort is being applied. It's that the system? The effort that is being applied to really doesn't fit anymore.
And when that's not the case, more effort won't fix it. There's a point where the very things that usually work that start to feel like they're taking more effort than they should. Not because anything is really being done wrong, but because the same approach is being [00:02:00] applied, but in a situation now that doesn't respond to it the same anymore.
And it shows up in small, almost easy to miss ways. Like plans will get made and then remade and then adjust it again. Your time might get organized, but then there's this constant sense of just trying to catch up, never being on top of it. A workout you might get started, but it takes longer to get into it, longer to feel settled, and longer just to feel finished.
A quiet moment might show up, and instead of feeling like a pause, it feels like something that needs to be filled. Maybe feeling guilty if we don't feel that quiet moment. Even something simple like sitting down with a cup of coffee or tea can feel like it has to be paired with something else, right?
Connecting, multitasking. Such as checking something, planning something, thinking ahead to something. Your brain is constantly churning, not because it has to [00:03:00] be done, but because stillness doesn't land anymore the same way it used to. So movement takes over. And again, none of this looks like a problem from the outside.
It looks like discipline. It looks like staying engaged. It looks like continuing to function at a higher level, but underneath it, there's friction. More effort is going on with less sense of ease coming back. More doing is going on with less sense of feeling of completion. And that's the part that's easy to miss because the strength is still there.
The ability to show up is still there. The willingness to keep going is still there. But the return on that effort, ha. That has quietly changed. This is something that I called the invisibility performance loop. This is the part that's so easy to miss because nothing is obviously wrong. Again, work's getting done, [00:04:00] responsibilities are being handled, and things are still moving.
But the way it's happening is changing. Decisions are taking longer to land, not because they're more complex, but because they don't feel clear. Even simple things like mapping out your day can take more effort than it used to. Looking at a schedule, deciding what stays, what moves, what matters most, there's more energy involved in getting to an answer.
And by the end of the day, there's a different kind of fatigue. Not from doing too much. From doing things that used to feel easier. A full day without that clean sense of completion, like everything is handled, but nothing's quite settled. And without calling it out, the system starts compensating. More structure, more planning, more effort to get things to feel tight and organized again.
Does this make sense? It's just the weirdest loop because it reads like it's a productivity issue, like we just need to be better at [00:05:00] organizing. But in reality, the output hasn't dropped. The cost of producing it has increased. So we're gonna land with a core truth here. When something feels off like this, it rarely gets called what it actually is.
It gets explained away, it gets cleaned up, it gets repackaged into something more manageable, like, "I probably just didn't sleep well." Or, "I need to get back to a better routine." Or, "I've just been feeling a little off lately." And listen, those aren't crazy explanations. They're just convenient ones because they keep everything in a category that feels fixable because sleep can be fixed, routines can be fixed, schedules can be fixed.
So the mind's gonna go there first. I, everything I'm saying today, I've watched myself do, so none of this is coming from something that's foreign. [00:06:00] There have been days where things felt heavier than they should, where focus wasn't landing clean, or even simple decisions took more effort than expected.
And the first thought wasn't, "Something deeper inside me has shifted." No. It was, "I need to tighten up. I need to get myself back together. I need to go to bed earlier, be more structured tomorrow, clean up my schedule, get back into a rhythm." And for a moment, that really does feel productive. It also feels like control, but here's where it starts to get a little honest, folks.
That response isn't about having a problem to solve. Sometimes it's about avoiding the reality that the problem isn't what it used to be, because if it's just sleep, that's easy. If it's just discipline that's familiar, if it's just getting back on track, that keeps everything in the same operating system.
But if the system [00:07:00] has shifted, those explanations stop holding, and that's the part that's easy to miss or to avoid, because everything is still functioning, nothing is obviously broken, so it's still easy to keep telling ourselves the same story is, "I just need to get it back together." When in reality, it's not about getting it together the same way anymore.
So the natural question becomes, why? Why would something that used to feel automatic and easier suddenly feel like we need to look at it again? Why does something that used to be easy start to feel like it takes more thought, more energy, and more intention? It's not random, and it's not lack of discipline.
What's actually happening is this. The system that used to run quickly has more information in it now. It has more experience, more awareness, and more context. Things that used to [00:08:00] be simple aren't as simple anymore, not because they got harder, because they got seen differently. What used to be an automatic, yes, I can do this, now carries with it a little bit more awareness and understanding behind it.
What used to feel like just another task now gets filtered through, "Is that exactly worth my energy anymore?" Now, even if that question isn't fully consciousness yet, that slows everything down and not in a bad way, but in a more accurate way. We start asking ourselves, "Gosh, is that worth it now? Should I really do that now?"
Because automatic patterns are built for efficiency. We've talked about that before. They're built to move quickly without thinking, but they don't update overnight. So when something underneath shifts in our life, our priorities change, our capacity is altered, our [00:09:00] perspective is broadened, or even our values have changed from experience, those automatic patterns don't immediately match our new reality.
So there's a gap. The old pattern is running, but something underneath is saying, "Hold on. " And, and that hold on thought underneath that subconscious thought is what people feel as hesitation, as friction, as second guessing, as things just not landing the same way, and it's not dysfunction. It's a system trying to update in real time.
And here's the part that matters, that pause, that sudden, slight hesitation, that moment where something doesn't feel automatic anymore, it is not weakness. It's actually a signal that something is being processed at a deeper level than it was before. So what we've been talking about here isn't about losing our edge, [00:10:00] it's not about stepping back from what matters, it's about recognizing when the way things are being approached no longer matches the way things actually are.
I'm gonna say that deserves to be said again. It's about recognizing when the way things are being approached no longer matches the way things actually are. And that mismatch doesn't usually show up in obvious ways. Again, it shows up in small moments, in decisions that take longer, in effort that feels heavier and in patterns that don't land the same way they used to.
And once that's seen, it doesn't need to be forced into a fix. It just needs to be understood differently because the goal isn't to get back to a version of performance that we used and fit before. It's to allow a different kind of performance to take shape now and one that actually works when things, like instead of against it, the actual things things are.
And that's exactly where we're gonna go next. As we move into May, we're shifting into a different [00:11:00] layer of this conversation. What happens when something that once felt like purpose starts to feel like pressure. We've been in such autopilot most of our lives and this episode is about when something that once felt right starts to feel off.
It's about listening to that gut instinct. It's about just this listening. Like when you have that inkling, stopping and pausing, that's all this episode's about is pay attention. Don't power through it. Don't automate yourself through it. Don't try to work harder, longer. Listen, because something inside of you is saying, "Mm, not quite right," feels a little off.
So I encourage you to listen to that. So next episode, we're shifting into a different layer, right? We're gonna talk about what happens when something once felt like a purpose and now feels like a pressure. We're gonna look at the moment that used to feel right, but now feels off, but the pressure behind a life that [00:12:00] looks right from the outside, but might not be from the inside, and how to move forward in a way that doesn't burn you out trying to chase something that just no longer fits.
So if this episode brought anything up for you, or if you've been noticing a sense that things aren't quite landing the way they used to, you're gonna wanna stay with a series through May. Thank you so much for spending time with me. Until next time, may you be happy, be healthy, and be fulfilled.
Thank you for listening to Mindset Medicine with your host, Dr. Julia Bowlin. To learn more about mindset medicine, go to www.juliabowlinmd.com and connect with Dr. Julia to find out how our team can help you today. Join us again next week for more expert tips, tools, and strategies to become healthier, wealthier, and wiser in your personal and professional [00:13:00] life.
